Why Are You So Afraid of Losing Your Girlfriend?

Why are you so afraid of losing someone especially your love one that is already change of heart?  Perhaps too many worry about their love one betray them and seek all kinds of methods to keep their love one in "good care",extreme endeavour such as: track their incoming/outgoing call, question them where they had been or whom they were with and etc.

What's the point? She is your love one, not a prisoner...

If she really betray you and what you have done won't bring her back either. So why waste your strength and make the situation ugly enough for both of you?

I heard too much about, " I think she is kinda pretty, should be those will betray on partner one..." , " she betrayed her ex before, OMG, she is so gotta betray me as well!"

These people just can't stop worrying about the betrayal and want to do everything to check on her partner..... and guess what, all these endeavour lead to the real situation of betrayal. Who wants a girlfriend that has no trust in relationship anyway and stalk you for everything... That is really a "breath- taking" relationship.

If she really betray you, let her go then.  There is always another person out there waiting for you. 

Know this. Your love one is a free spirit, it is her very own free will to choose to stay with you. 

If you really so afraid of losing in a love relationship, maybe you shouldn't love, because you have yet to know what is love about.

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Come Out Research (1)

One thing I fear to death is to come out, especially towards my family. 

"Your task is not to seek for love, But merely to seek and find All the barriers within yourself That you have built against it." Rumi

Confrontation is really important for my relationship and this is the thing that matter to me most. I would really hope my life partner being properly recognized by my family and also my friend. Therefore, year 2009, I decided to do a series of research and preparation for coming out.

Research 1:

Met netfriend S* in real life. As I expected, she is kind hearted and traditional. Decision to meet her is simply easy and straightforward--> she is Christian and she already come out. Ok I admit, she is kind and she is Christian, I like to meet her and talk. *well, some issues can only talk to people with same background.To my surprise, people nowadays juz can't believe a simple friendship?

Through S*, I found out some interesting point about lesbian living a Christian life in Malaysia and also her come out story. 

Her come out story sound more of an accident and not done on purpose. 

* Glad to hear that Lesbian that is Christian helping each other in this PLU circle.

May God bless us all.

Conclusion for Research 1:

I am a Christian myself, knowing how other Christian family react towards come out issue is critical. Issues such as how, when, where to come out need to be addressed. Research 1 is merely step 1 and it will lead to another research until Im fully prepare to confront my family.

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