Me& S.E are having a long distance relationship(LDR) at the moment, I am learning to adopt this lifestyle and trying to reach all sort of information I can have to understand more about LDR. This is one of the article that I find it very useful, so I wish to share with you that are experiencing long distance relationship.
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Information adopted from http://www.perfect-relationship.com/Articles/LDR/ArtLDRDD.htm
Long Distance Relationship - Advice on Dos and Don'ts
Throughout our experience working with long distance relationship couples, we had discovered that there are lots of thing that we must do and as well as refrain from doing in order to survive the relationship. Below are some of the advices that we have compiled over the years. Although they may look simple but when it comes to the actual execution, it may take more than your effort and discipline. It is your desire to survive the relationship that makes the most impact in writing the outcome of your distance relationship. Consider some of the below do and don’t list and together with your desire, I am pretty sure you are able to conquer your distance relationship with ease and fun.
Do’s
1) Establish an effective communication channel
The very first thing that you must do in a long distance relationship is to establish an effective communication channel. Most people will think that telephone is the most convenient mode of communication but apart from the telephone services, there are some other alternative you can use. Instant messenger, emails, VOIP phone and conventional mails can be very effective if you know how to use them. Each of the communication channels has its own advantages and disadvantages and therefore you must start to explore each of them to enhance your communication experience.
2) Plan to meet each other
There is nothing more important than planning to meet each other again at an interval of time throughout the period of your long distance relationship. This will help both you and your partner to catch up with each other over the things that you cannot do while apart. The anticipation of seeing each other again will always give you the excitement, hope and as well as eliminating the lonely feeling in your LDR.
3) Build hobby that you can both share
By building and keeping a hobby, both of you will have something to discuss and work on throughout your distance relationship. Finding something to do online can be quite interesting judging from its speed and reach ability but never leave out conventional hobby as well because you do not need to have your partner’s physical present to share a hobby.
4) Surprise your partner
Occasionally surprise you partner with cards, gifts, letter and flower out of their expectation apart from your normal correspondence. Put your imagination to use and your partner will be sure to love your effort in keeping them happy. Sending the unexpected gifts to your partner will always spice up your distance relationship regardless how far your partner may be.
5) Capture and share that interesting moment
Throughout the period of your LDR, you can always capture some interesting moment of yours by exchanging photos, video clips and as well as audio recording. This will indirectly keep your partner informed on what has happen in your life despite the physical distance.
Don’ts
1) Settle for a temporary replacement
One of the mistakes that a distance relationship couple often make is to settle for a temporary replacement when their partner is not physical around. By letting a third party into your life, you will not only put your distance relationship to risk but you will also break the mutual trust and agreement that you make. Although it may not be done intentionally but this type of mistake will be very costly to your long distance relationship.
2) Take the relationship lightly
The absence of your partner does not give you the license to dictate and manipulate the relationship. You must remember that, your partner has their own right to participate in any decision making toward the well being of your relationship regardless where there are. A long distance relationship is also as important as a normal relationship and your partner has their own right to be treated fairly.
3) Wait and see attitude
Most of the failures in distance relationship that we observed are contributed by the wait and see attitude of the couples themselves. This was caused by the insecurity of the couple as they do not think that the LDR will work but at the same time they do not want to put a stop to the relationship. Let me tell you this, if you plan to have this kind of attitude, refrain from walking into one at the first place because both you and your partner will suffer in the relationship. In a LDR, both partners must be committed and proactive in bringing the relationship to a higher level.
4) Suspicion
There are no rooms for suspicion in a long distance relationship. In order for you to survive your distance relationship, you must learn to trust your partner whole heartedly. A single suspicion will break the bond you have for each other and it is a beginning of the end if you start to suspect your partner at any point of your LDR. Although it is easier said than done but trust me, if your partner is apt to do something unfaithful to you, they will still do it under your nose. Therefore there is no need for you to create such unnecessary stress in your LDR.
5) Succumb to negative comment on LDR
Couples in distance relationship always make a mistake by believing that LDR do not work. The negative impression you have in LDR will eventually hunt you down and destroy your relationship if you choose to listen to the negative comment. Therefore, once you have decided to enter into a long distance relationship, you must learn to believe that your relationship will work. I knew it because I had successfully conquered my own distance relationship due to the reason that I am not influence by any of the bad comments I received.
天秤座喜欢——
喂！谁告诉你可以随便牵他们的手来着？私下没人的时候你想怎样都可以，不过拜托人多的地方还是要收敛点好。即使感情再亲密，你的天秤还是很介意和你当众表演亲热的。没办法，礼节不能忘啊，谁叫他们就是这么注重表面功夫呢！
最受用甜言蜜语：谢谢！（是啊！是啊！礼节是非常重要的）
天蝎座喜欢——
这个……对天蝎，说话其实是蛮多余的。比起语言的沟通，他们更喜欢身体的亲密接触。不想干柴烈火一发不可收拾？找人多光线又充足的地方约会就OK，只要别在他们面前提起你别的异性朋友如何优秀，通常他们也不会有什么意见。
最受用甜言蜜语：我……（药效太强，请慎用！）
射手座喜欢——
射手们在乎的是曾经拥有，至于能不能够天长地久他们倒未必在乎。所以，对你的射手恋人谈什么山盟海誓根本没必要，除了让对方徒增没必要的压力，别的效果是一点都没有。不想约完这次没下次的话，还是留点时间陪他们上街好好逛吧！
最受用甜言蜜语：你真好玩！（幽默、有趣，这些类似的称赞也同样适用）
摩羯座喜欢——
感觉到约会的空气仿佛都凝固起来了？最恐怖的是你对面那个人自己也不喜欢这样僵硬的感觉！深呼吸一下，先让自己放轻松，一定要抢在他们被沉默逼到底线开始说无聊笑话前，找个点有趣的话题，这样很容易就可以让气氛好转起来哦！
最受用甜言蜜语：你很有深度，但一点都不闷呢！（是不是真的不闷就看你怎么引导啦！）
水瓶座喜欢——
水瓶并不是疯子更不是科学怪人，他们其实也蛮好玩的呢！如果你感觉自己没办法跟上他们的思路，就别勉强自己去跟了。不懂装懂是大忌，懂装不懂倒无妨，偶尔表现一下你的天真可爱与无知，会让你的水瓶恋人觉得你很可爱哦！
最受用甜言蜜语：为什么？（是啊！为什么？等水瓶来告诉你吧！）
双鱼座喜欢——
好！停！没看见你对面的双鱼已经在打瞌睡了吗？既然是约会，就收起你长篇大论的那套宏伟蓝图吧！你的双鱼恋人对你将来会有多伟大并不在意，他们在乎的是现在这一刻够不够温馨、够不够浪漫、够不够甜蜜！OK？知道该怎么做了吧？
最受用甜言蜜语：Darling！you are so pretty！（为什么用英文？异国情调啊！懂不懂！）
So I love July alot as it signify I move to another phrase of my life!
I am loving it~
(oops, I love Mc Donald! Hope Mc Donald do not have copyrightissue with me on this)
蜿蜒小径，绿色树木，还有的是很多不知名的生命物体。一呼一吸都是生命的气息。
很喜欢在走在绿色公园里。我总能在大自然里领悟人生，然后放下人生种种错误的执著。
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